The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg

"This is how willpower becomes a habit: by choosing a certain behavior ahead of time, and then following that routine when an inflection point arrives." p. 146 "I really, genuinely believe that if you tell people that they have what it takes to succeed, they'll prove you right." p. 149 "When people are asked to do something that takes self-control, if they think they are doing it for personal reasons--if they feel like it's a choice or something they enjoy because it helps someone else--it's much less taxing. If they feel they have no autonomy, if they're just following orders, their willpower muscles get tired much faster." p. 151 "Change might not be fast and it isn't always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped. The framework: *Identify the routine *Experiment with rewards *Isolate the cue *Have a plan" p. 276 Figure out the "habit loop" (Cue-Routine-Reward.) Find a different reward (different way to relax, cope with stress, etc.) then change your routine (the habit you want to change). p. 277-280