"This is how willpower becomes a habit: by choosing a certain behavior ahead of time, and then following that routine when an inflection point arrives." p. 146
"I really, genuinely believe that if you tell people that they have what it takes to succeed, they'll prove you right." p. 149
"When people are asked to do something that takes self-control, if they think they are doing it for personal reasons--if they feel like it's a choice or something they enjoy because it helps someone else--it's much less taxing. If they feel they have no autonomy, if they're just following orders, their willpower muscles get tired much faster." p. 151
"Change might not be fast and it isn't always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped.
The framework:
*Identify the routine
*Experiment with rewards
*Isolate the cue
*Have a plan" p. 276
Figure out the "habit loop" (Cue-Routine-Reward.) Find a different reward (different way to relax, cope with stress, etc.) then change your routine (the habit you want to change). p. 277-280
"...the Count had restricted himself to two succinct pieces of parental advice. The first was that if one did not master one's circumstances, one was bound to be mastered by them; and the second was Montaigne's maxim that the surest sign of wisdom is constant cheerfulness." p. 419 "...he was wise enough to know that life does not proceed by leaps and bounds. It unfolds...Our faculties wax and wane, our experiences accumulate, and our opinions evolve--if not glacially, then at least gradually. Such that the events of an average day are as likely to transform who we are as a pinch of pepper is to transform a stew." p. 402 "For his part, the Count had opted for the life of the purposefully unrushed. Not only was he disinclined to race toward some appointed hour--disdaining even to wear a watch--he took the greatest satisfaction when assuring a friend that a worldly matter could wait in favor of a leisurely lunch or a stroll along the embankment.....
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